This pattern can get stuck in a women’s pelvis, sometimes for years. I first discovered this in my aunt who had a very traumatic birth with her first son who was 47 at the time. So for 47 years her pelvis has been in an open birthing position. One would think that the bones of the pelvis just go right back into place after the baby comes out. In some women it does. In others, which I’m finding is more and more common, it doesn’t. The one thing I know that is keeping the pelvis from going back to its normal position is trauma!
Trauma can keep the pelvis stuck in the birthing position. Until the trauma is released and the body and pelvis knows it’s safe then the pelvis can come back together to its normal position. Trauma can be experienced at any time during the birthing process but most typically is occurs during the pushing phase when the pelvis is already open and ready to let the baby out.
Anytime a woman gets to the point where she wants to quit, doesn’t feel she can go on, feels out of control, or maybe gets threatened with a c-section a trauma response can happen in the body.
A typical trauma response in the body is to fight or flight the situation but since a birthing woman can’t do those two it does the only thing left which is to freeze. This freezing happens while the pelvis is in an opened, birthing position. Until the trauma is released the body tends to hold onto this pattern.
I can see how a woman may not recognize this trauma or that her pelvic is still birthing. After opening up so wide to get the baby out, all sense of normalcy, what was felt like before birth, is gone. There is no ground zero in your body once it’s birthed a baby. Also seeing and holding your baby in your arms for the first time is enough to distract anyone from what they’ve just gone through. The reward of being with your baby seems to outweigh or override any negative feelings felt during the birthing process.
But I do know that women can feel a difference in their body after the pelvis has been helped back into its pre-pregnancy state. You must address both the physical position of the pelvis along with releasing any held emotions and trauma in the tissues.
There are 3 signs that I’ve discovered that are clues that your pelvis is still birthing. Let’s see if you have any of them.
The first sign your pelvis is still in a birthing pattern is when you lay down on your back on a hard surface (a soft bed may not the best surface to check this out on) is to check out how level are your hip bones, those little bumps on either side of your pelvis. Are they even? Or do you notice that your right side ilium, or hip bone, is higher than the left?
The typical birthing pattern is the right side will be higher than the left. When lying down on your back the pelvis will be tilted to the left as seen in this picture.
The reason for this is the sacrum gets jammed up and over to the right during the birth process.
There is a two-step process I do to help mobilize the sacrum back into midline again. I haven’t figured out how to help women do this on their own yet! Stay tuned….
#2. Sitting Unevenly or Uncomfortably
For the baby to be able to come out of the pelvis the sits bones or ischiums need to splay out to the side. Ideally they splay out evenly. But depending on the baby’s pathway through the pelvis or the birthing position used, one ischium may be more splayed out to the side. Birthing in a side lying position can limit the mobility of the lower sided pelvis (on the bed) and cause more movement in the upper side (ceiling side). Birthing on your back with two separate people holding your legs at different angles can also potentially cause an imbalance in your pelvis.
If the pelvis remains in this birthing position, sitting may seem different. It can feel uneven, or awkward. This is not from swelling or tenderness in your perineum, as that can cause discomfort and or pain. If you don’t have pain but sitting still feels weird, it’s because your bones are in a different position than before your birth.
#3. Feeling Ungrounded or Discombobulated
One of the things I ask the moms that I find with birthing pelvis’ is “What are you feeling in your body and in your life?” The most common reply is “ungrounded, not myself or discombobulated”
When we realize the pelvis is our energetic foundation for our body and life, when it is open and unbalanced we don’t have a solid foundation. In one of my clients it felt like energetically she was walking around with her energy just flowing out full blast, like both faucets handles turned on and water spilling out with no container to hold it. When you can’t hold and contain your energy within you, if can feel a little unsettling. Most new moms may attribute this to figuring out how to care for a newborn, not that she has no energetic container.
So if you find you have one, two or all of these signs you now know what’s going on. Your pelvis is stuck in a birthing position and needs help coming back together.
For over 20 years Lynn has been practicing Women’s Health Physical therapy in her own practice, Intuitive Hands Physical Therapy, in Boulder and Denver, CO where she combines the knowledge from PT school with the healing energy techniques of Craniosacral Therapy, Visceral Manipulation, and Holistic Pelvic Care to help women reconnect to their body.
Lynn holds a Bachelor of Science in Physical Therapy from St. Louis University, St. Louis Missouri. A true teacher, Lynn continues to supplement her professional experience with training to complement and update her practice.
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