Melissa Holland, MS (she/her)
Inner Wisdom Parenting, LLC
[parent coaching, emotional and self-regulation development]
Melissa offers a 30-minute (free) consultation for new clients.
Simply visit the website and book a Clarity Call. www.InnerWisdomParenting.com Contact Melissa office hours:
by appointment rates: vary by service/package |
Parenting is hard. Perfection is impossible (and not the goal).
And... parenting can be less stressful and more fun. As parents, we are sometimes confronted with tough behavior from our kids that leaves us exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed, perplexed and frustrated. Challenging Behaviors These can look different for every child, but may include (but, of course, not limited to):
And as a result of trying to manage this tough behavior, you might feel like you're walking on eggshells. And your relationship with your partner/spouse/co-parent may be suffering. You might feel anxiety when the phone rings, in case it is another call from school or daycare. You probably feel depleted, stressed and drained, experiencing parental burnout. I relate so deeply to all of this because I have been there. Support for You Challenging Behavior Is the Tip of the Iceberg Nearly 90% of the iceberg lays beneath the waterline, out of sight. And beneath challenging behavior lies the true drivers of behavior, also out of sight, "below the waterline". Let's get curious. What if... behavior was a symptom highlighting a challenge your child is struggling with? What if... behavior was communication? (Not conscious, thoughtful or even effective communication - but the best your child can do at this time.) What if... behavior was an adaptive response to something that your child was experiencing? What if... we get curious about what's beneath the behaviors? Then....everything changes. When you discover what is beneath a child's challenging behaviors, you view their behavior through a new lens. And when you do that, you see your child more fully. Beneath the Behaviors The Beneath the Behaviors Approach is based on the latest developments in neuroscience, positive psychology and the science of connection. This means we trust that our child’s big, baffling behaviors have a valid, understandable reason; we just don’t know what those are yet. But when we cultivate compassionate curiosity, and get beneath the behaviors, then we can stop playing “behavior whack-a-mole” and get to the root of the challenges. About Melissa Melissa Holland is the founder of “Inner Wisdom Parenting”. She supports parents in addressing their children’s challenging behaviors, with online courses, workshops, coaching and consulting in the essential areas of emotional and self-regulation, self-compassion and mindfulness. She is an experienced coach and teacher, previously in the areas of positive psychology, career and life transitions. She is a certified self-regulation specialist and currently completing an intensive year-long parent coach training, grounded in relational neuroscience, which includes the biology of stress, the science of connection, neuroscience and neurodevelopment and more). She lives with her boys in Boulder: the big one (husband), the little one (son) and the fuzzy one (Rocket, the Cat). When she’s not creating courses or supporting parents, she’s reading, learning, drinking coffee, feigning interest in Minecraft and Star Wars, reading about trail running (not actually running – yet) and hanging out with her favorite boys. Her motto to live by – lately – has been “hold it lightly”. She’s still learning how. |